” Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured” (Mark Twain)
So after an ‘explosion of anger’, we tend to replay the scene and hear the same words over and over again in our minds. We carefully pry off every image and word to see how really bad and ugly the behaviour really was…It always comes down to, embarrassed or ashamed.
Whether we have an anger management problem or not, we definitely hate the feeling and the ‘trouble’ that anger carries with it.
So, here’s a few beneficial tips to get the ‘lion purring’ when out:
1. Find an immediate cool-down strategy
When you about to ‘roar’, stop, remind yourself that you need to calm down immediately. If standing, you should sit or if sitting, lie down. Go and wash your face or drink some cold water. Take a few deep breaths and exhale slowly, or mimic the ‘aaaah’ sound which will help you to relax. This will allow the ‘fiery heat’ to subside.
2. Move the situation away from your personal self
Most of the time, the problem, or situation is not a direct attack on your personality, so why take it so seriously? You need to tell yourself that the ‘rebuttal’ can wait. Give yourself time to analyse the situation that is upsetting you. Don’t ever let a situation blow out of control because of anger. This definitely leads to character assassination or worse. Let time assist you in finding decent solutions to the problem. Once you understand reasons not to get angry, anger control becomes easier.
3. Silence is really golden
When it comes to keeping the mouth closed during an argument or when angry, golden it is. Don’t let your anger fuel itself by speaking. There is no better antidote to anger than to simple’ Shut up’. It doesn’t cost a cent and you will feel empowered and much more content and happy with yourself later on when you cool down. Just be quiet and silent, even if the other person/s are ‘tearing the roof down’. Try it, it works every time.
So, next time the ‘roaring side of you decides to make an appearance, stop it in its tracks. Life and relationship are precious, so let’s treasure them…
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